Oh the twenty-somethings…. (looking back, funny, i’ve blogged about this quite a bit. Now i can reflect at least as a mid-twenty-something, not a young twenty-something)
More truisms than ever in this NYT magazine article. Especially enjoyed this:
Just as adolescence has its particular psychological profile, Arnett says, so does emerging adulthood: identity exploration, instability, self-focus, feeling in-between and a rather poetic characteristic he calls “a sense of possibilities.” A few of these, especially identity exploration, are part of adolescence too, but they take on new depth and urgency in the 20s. The stakes are higher when people are approaching the age when options tend to close off and lifelong commitments must be made. Arnett calls it “the age 30 deadline.”
Oh, the age 30 deadline… do I understand that notion. Now at 25 (in between jobs, no home, not even a phone! and heading back to Finland in less than a month, for a month) I have given myself exactly 5 years to “figure it out”.
What “it” is I can’t say exactly, but partly, it’s the 5 big twenty-something milestones that the article talks about (graduate, financially independent, marriage, house, kids). When you see your other twenty-something friends and family at least as DINKs – you can’t help but feel behind to think of yourself as a SINK or even worse… a NINK? oh my… (update: worse, I’ve now been labeled SUNK, by my parents… haha. Ouch.)
Makes you ponder…
Is emerging adulthood a rich and varied period for self-discovery, as Arnett says it is? Or is it just another term for self-indulgence?