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I’m a twenty-something

Oh the twenty-somethings….  (looking back, funny, i’ve blogged about this quite a bit. Now i can reflect at least as a mid-twenty-something, not a young twenty-something)

More truisms than ever in this NYT magazine article. Especially enjoyed this:

Just as adolescence has its particular psychological profile, Arnett says, so does emerging adulthood: identity exploration, instability, self-focus, feeling in-between and a rather poetic characteristic he calls “a sense of possibilities.” A few of these, especially identity exploration, are part of adolescence too, but they take on new depth and urgency in the 20s. The stakes are higher when people are approaching the age when options tend to close off and lifelong commitments must be made. Arnett calls it “the age 30 deadline.”

Oh, the age 30 deadline… do I understand that notion. Now at 25 (in between jobs,  no home, not even a phone! and heading back to Finland in less than a month, for a month) I have given myself exactly 5 years to “figure it out”.

What “it” is I can’t say exactly, but partly, it’s the 5 big twenty-something milestones that the article talks about (graduate, financially independent, marriage, house, kids). When you see your other twenty-something friends and family at least as DINKs – you can’t help but feel behind to think of yourself as a SINK or even worse… a NINK? oh my… (update: worse, I’ve now been labeled SUNK, by my parents… haha. Ouch.)

Makes you ponder…

Is emerging adulthood a rich and varied period for self-discovery, as Arnett says it is? Or is it just another term for self-indulgence?

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The “hugging” police in high school?

Morning in nytimes “For teenagers, Hello means “how about a hug?

I think it’s rather nice. So what if kids just stay in the hallway and hug? It seems some people have issues with it:

“And schools from Hillsdale, N.J., to Bend, Ore., wary in a litigious era about sexual harassment or improper touching — or citing hallway clogging and late arrivals to class — have banned hugging or imposed a three-second rule.”

Wow.  I think US schools have more to worry about than students jovially hugging one another. Hugging’s a natural “feel good”.

When school shooting and bullying are increasingly in the news, just let the young American culture embrace the hug:)

Fred R. Conrad/The New York Times

Fred R. Conrad/The New York Times

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